Thursday, November 4, 2010

Catching Up

There have been several times in the past few weeks that I've wanted to blog, but so far I haven't had much time. Who knows how long this post will take me to complete - it all depends on if the baby keeps sleeping or not.

I had a really good recovery from my c-section, far and away the best I've ever had, and a fairly relaxed first 3 weeks of the baby's life, emotionally speaking. This was due in great part to the extensive visit of my sister, who stayed from before Laura Louise was born until the end of October. At the point when everyone went home and back to work after I had my other two, I started trying to bring some order to my life, gain some control, and prevent evening crying jags by working on my babies' nap schedules. I made myself crazy trying to get them to nap at the same times every day for as long as the books said they should. I even said after the first one that I wasn't going to do that again, but the second one came along and I did it again. So I've resisted whatever urges I might have to check out the latest "get your baby to sleep" books out there. If I don't have a "should" to follow, then I can't follow it, right? I'm telling myself just to enjoy whatever naps she does take and not expect anything else.

The problem is, now that I am taking care of her almost exclusively by myself (sister has gone home, and husband is in seminary - 'nuff said), it seems like she has three states: sleeping, nursing, or crying. She literally cries 99% of the time that she is awake, unless she's nursing. She has actually made herself hoarse crying so much. It doesn't matter if I'm holding her or not, walking around with her or not, singing to her or not; she just cries. Her daddy and I have discussed the possiblity that it's reflux that's making her cry, but I don't know if that's it or not. Anyway, it's a good thing I'm trying to go with the flow otherwise, because all the crying is draining enough without expending energy trying to control how the day goes. Even still, the crying does wear a person down after awhile. Pray for me.

With the other two, especially the oldest, I've switched from a very structured homeschool schedule to what I like to call "guerilla homeschooling." We fit in a reading lesson while I'm nursing or holding the baby. We do math on the floor while the baby unexpectedly naps. You get the picture.

Another thing that's really helping me is that some of the mothers here have started an educational playgroup co-op twice a week in the mornings. This gives me a break from the two older ones so I can relax a bit, mentally. We'll see how it goes when it's my turn to participate in the teaching/supervision part! The administration here is really hoping to turn this grassroots effort into a full-fledged daycare/preschool, they say by next school year. I think it would be a real boon to the seminary if and when that happens, but I'm thankful for what we have now.

I'm going to be churched early, Lord willing, tomorrow, so that I can venerate the relics of St. Vladimir that are scheduled to come here the following weekend. My husband's dad and stepmother are coming to visit us this weekend for a few days, tand then about a week after they leave, his mother will be visiting us for Thanksgiving. While she is here, Laura Louise is scheduled to be baptized during the liturgy on Thanksgiving day! We are so excited to have that to remember each year on Thanksgiving, and blessed to have a fellow-seminarian and his wife as the intended godparents for our little one. They are pious, thoughtful, hospitable people with whom we feel we have a lot in common, and wish we had even more in common, when it comes to their virtues.

I think I'd better wrap this up and get some sleep while the getting is good. Pray for us.

5 comments:

elizabeth said...

reflux - I know my friend here in Ottawa (who B and P who are there now know fyi) had this w. one of her kids (or maybe both??) had reflux and she went on a more cow dairy/gluten free diet and it has really helped...

hang in there; hard when the child is young and in the crying stage. My poor mother, I was like this a bit when I was young I think...

how wonderful about the churching! I pray that the time with St. Vladimir's relics will be a blessing; I know they were while they were here in Ottawa...

Juliana said...

I feel for you about the crying--Harry cried like that for months and months and Max cried like that for the first few months. I know how hard that is. I pray you are able to find sanity where you can. Hang in there--the crying doesn't last forever, and pretty soon you'll have a smiley happy baby on your hands. Don't put too much pressure on yourself to have things be such and such way with that kind of crying right now. Just do what needs to be done and don't worry too much about the rest. Let us know if we can help in any way.

sophiaofthrace said...

Does she cry when she's being held?Some babies just seem to need a lot of bodily contact. Could that be it? Duncan was that way. So was my younger brother. Duncan wouldn't even sleep by himself. If I did lay him down by himself, he would soon begin fussing. Most of the time, if he wasn't nursing, he had to be held or he would cry. He is still and very "touchy-feely" little boy. Needs his cuddle time and physical touch.

Audra said...

Thanks, Juliana.

And sophiaofthrace, she cries whether I hold her or not, so I'm starting to think I just need to put her down even though she's crying, especially if I need to eat. I'm no good to her if I don't eat, even though I wonder which things I'm putting in my mouth may be making her have reflux and/or stomach pain.

thegeekywife said...

I will pray that you and Laura get some comfort soon.

One of my nieces had reflux, which got worse at evening hours. But being pushed in a stroller calmed her. So she got a lot of walks. Maybe that would help?

Very good news about her upcoming Thanksgiving Baptism. What a special day!